“Relationship sweet and we for marry but nah break-up spoil am”
The above quote is just a quote I came up with in the course of writing this article just to make myself feel smart (for my mind). However, if you have been in a relationship and i'm not referring to the friends with benefit, entanglements and the long list of “situationships” that young people and even adults get themselves into these days, you would agree with me that break-ups are never easy (unless you are a marlian of course) especially when you have to be the one who does the breaking up. This is why in this article, you will learn how to break up with your partner the right way and how to deal with the emotions that come after.
Are you in a toxic relationship? Perhaps you and your partner are incompatible in every way, and you are unable to overcome issues and problems that this causes in your relationship? Or maybe you’ve fallen out of love or met someone you are more compatible with. The circumstances nonetheless, you don’t want to end the relationship abruptly or suddenly become incommunicado or go “Edward snowden”(or you could do that actually but ko ni make sense) in a bid to avoid that having that awkward and difficult conversation.
To be honest break ups aren’t easy and if you are a hopeless romantic like me, breakups can sometimes be messy with lots of tears and emotional heartache( chaii my chwest).
I’ve heard a lot of people from both sexes say their other half did not have the balls to own up and break up with them to their face when ending their relationship. So yeah it sucks regardless of your position in the break up, especially if the relationship is one sided, but that doesn’t mean you should end a relationship the wrong way.
There are better ways to break up with a partner no matter the situation, or how incredibly mutual it might be to you.
Here are some tips on how to do it the right way.
#1.BREAK UP HIM OR HER FACE-TO-FACE
If you are gonna break up, have the goddam balls to do it face-to-face. No ghosting, texting, or blocking them on social media. Common have some class! No going off or sending someone else to do the job for you.
Look directly in their house while you talk
Don’t be rude or create a scene
Know what you are going to say and say it honestly, gently without anger or any emotional outburst.
Explain why you have to close this chapter and tell them that you had a great time while it lasted.
#2. DON’T SPREAD BAD WORDS ABOUT HIM/HER
A person with class never gossips or says bad things about a woman he was involved in to any other person. Say only positive things when asked about him/her and tell them that you had a great journey together.
#3. STICK TO YOUR GUNS
Deciding to break up with your partner is a very difficult decision to make especially if its someone you once loved(or may still love).
Sometimes, you’d even have doubts about the breakup and may not want to see reason why a breakup is necessary. You might want to believe that you are overreacting, or that things will get better, or that you are being too rash. Bottom line is let your yes be your yes and do not say yes when you mean to say no (Baba Ibadan!)
#4. DO IT IN PRIVATE
Never break up with someone in a public place! That is a tad insensitive if you ask me. In short, O Wrong!
#5. STAY HAPPY AND SHEY
No matter the circumstances or reasons surrounding your break up, never be vulgar or hurtful to your partner or ex. Hold no grudge, move on and save yourself and your ex post-breakup shenanigans.
In conclusion "getting dumped" sucks so does the act of "breaking up" with someone. The key is breaking up the right way, move on and get over it.
If you've decided to break-up for genue reason such as being in a toxic relationship, falling out of love or you've met someone more compatible. Then you should follow the rules above. Treat your ex with the dignity and respect that you want him or her to treat you with.
In the end we go dey alright Las Las, ordibest.
Damilola Akinlade (ADT).
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